The goddess.


So it is week three with our new domestic goddess and a goddess she is.  The first week I made a list and had hubby stay late and discuss it with her…she did the list and a whole heap more.  I was blown away.  After that I decided to dispense with the list because this woman does not need to be micromanaged.  She knows what she is doing and she has a plan. I think I almost love her.  It is as if she can read my mind and extrapolate all the things I want done.

She even organised my kitchen drawers…like I would organise it, if I ever had the time or inclination to do it properly.

We have hundreds of books (I am not exaggerating, hubby and I have a mini library, and HB has his own).  She unpacked the books and dusted under them and on them and put them back on IN ORDER!

I always dreamed about doing the books, but it is such a huge task, I never have.

She picks up our stuff around the house and categorises them, and finds one spot for it.  She does the weird things, without me ever having asked.  I have never asked anyone to dust the shelves or clean inside the fridge or scrub out grout lines….but she just did it.

Thinking about this goddess (who I don’t really see, she only sees hubby sometimes), I think she is great at this house work thing, so I actually think she would do brilliantly in a better paying job.  I don’t think she will stay with us for very long, because her future holds better than cleaning my house.  I will miss her, because she is on my wave length and I almost love her.  I asked hubby to stay late today and to tell her that I almost love her.

The result of having her, is that I actually have weekends to do the things I want to do.  HB and I go out for our little picnics and play dates and I sew and crochet. Hubby and I can just be with each other, without cleaning something.

This weekend I am going to organise my sewing things.  The other thing:  When I invite people over, I do not have to rush about picking up and dusting. I can just invite people over and relax.  I am relaxed over the weekends, I am less snappy and resentful.  I don’t have to clean under the couches and scrub out the bathroom.

This lovely woman has changed my life and I wonder if she knows that she has.  Does she know that she should be running her own cleaning company or any company….she has organising skills, she is not just someone who cleans a house.




I am looking forward to the weekend.  It has been busy and hubby has been working the last two weekends.  I have no kiddie playdates organised, just one grownup playdate.

I have more beanies to crochet.  Guys, this project of RM’s is the perfect way to increase your skills.  I made some plain ones, which are really quick and easy and then I started out a stitch I have not tried before.  So this beanie project is brilliant to upskill yourself.  I have learned about the correct way to increase stitches, using a stitch marker has changed my life, I have learned how do that swirling cable beanie.  For me, this is a big wow.
I also have some personal sewing…have to take in the waists of my pants so that I don’t have a big pleat at the top.  It is a good feeling to be smaller, even if I am not totally healthier yet.
I promised HB some new gloves…he asked for plain ones.  My little boy is growing up. His teacher sent an email to me this morning to tell me he is doing really well this term and seems to be flying through the concepts.  It warms my heart to hear such positive comments.
Hubby an I agreed this morning that we are only saying good things and no little snappies (because we have started to be a tad cranky with each other….it comes from not seeing each other enough).
I also get to go enjoy some good traditional food with a cousin…I have not seen her in a long time.
I had a call from a friend I have not spoken to for a while and she had such good news to share.  It was good that when she wanted to share something brilliant, she gave me a call.
It is cold and sunny and I feel happy today…so many good things to be happy about.

Now what?


So after 4 months on this diet, I have gone down 3 sizes, lost 15kgs and…my cholesterol levels are higher than when I started.

I eat way more veggies, I do not eat excessive fats, but I do eat full cream everything.  I do not eat meat excessively either.  My typical day is a flaxseed muffin for breakfast or seed crackers I make myself.  Besides the natural oil in the seeds, the only fat in there is an egg in the muffin.
I eat a salad for lunch with 1 tablespoon mayo.
Dinner is the only meal where things are different and I am not so strict.  It still contains veggies or/and meat…but again, iti s not junk or bought food.  I cook it.
I do not eat snacks.   I do not eat sugar.  In the four months I was on the diet, I cheated four time: 2 mini quiches, a slice of cheesecake (which did not stay long, I was ill after), and one small slice of pizza.
I am not sure what else I should not be eating.  I eat very high fibre already with the seeds and cruciferous veggies (cabbage, kale, spinach, broccoli, cauliflower).  Yes, I eat fat, but I did not think it was too much.
I feel like giving up. I feel like going off and making myself a big cup of tea with normal dairy full cream milk and giving up on this whole thing.  I will just go take the statin drugs, with all the side effects it has and the risk of birth defects if I ever get pregnant via an oopsie.
I will just take the drugs, and eat whatever and just give this up, because it is not working.
I love fruit, and I have even given up eating those because of the high sugar.  I was about to start eating berries and melon again, but I just don’t know.  Is this worth it?
I have a family history of cardiac disease and high cholesterol.  So I know there is genetics in here I can do nothing about. I did, however, think that if I tried really hard, I could make a difference and delay those statins until I was a bit older and really not going to ever be pregnant.  I think for me, the risks to a child if I was ever pregnant is the biggest thing.   I am 37 now and I know I do not want anymore children, but the fact is, I can have children still and I do all the things that could make children.  Yes I use contraception, but this is not 100%.  It is very effective, but not 100%, and I do forget sometimes.  I am not ready for tube cuts and tube ties also slip open sometimes.
Hubby is not about to get tubes cut either.
Even though I decided one child is enough (I decided, not hubby…I made him think it is what he wants), sometimes I still want another three kids.

Teacher gifts…to do or not?


Our littlee attends a school we pay quite a bit of money for.  We are fairly happy with the school and the teachers, etc.  I do feel there could be a bit more diversity in the staff but I am not sure what can be done about it.  I cannot even get them them to makes changes in the uniform, let alone staff.

Anyway, I digress.
How do you feel about gifts for staff?  I am not stingy but I do think we cannot give gifts to everyone on every occasion.  Engagements, birthdays, weddings, babies and this is not just the teachers and the principal.  It extends to the assistants, admin people and ground staff, including the security people.  This is a heap of people to dish out gifts to on all occasions.
We do flowers, card and choc on Valentines and then something again for Mother’s Day.  We contribute to the birthday gift.  Last year the teacher received a R1500 gift voucher and a party that included helium balloons, expensive flowers, cake, cupcakes, juice, fruit and decorations.
For me this is a bit over the top.  Surely it is about a gesture, and should not have to cost that much.  Parents are also required to be at the birthday tea (like we don’t have jobs to go to).
I don’t want to be a Scrooge, but I just feel that while teachers and school staff are a larger part of the lives of our children, we do pay a large amount of money to the school already.
I also suggested to Hubby that if we are going to be organised enough to collect money for the teacher’s gift, we should take that money and donate it to a charity in the teacher’s name, or buy books for a less privileged school or milk for some babies. I am just not sure that teachers in a private school require expensive gifts and parties.
Maybe the public school teachers are more deserving…bigger classes, smaller salaries…
What is your view?

The circus.


Hubby has dropped off the diet, well partially, because he is within sight of his healthy weight…I still have 10kgs more to go.

Without hubby it is a little harder to get the meals together, because I need to watch the portions sizes without wasting food.
It is colder and I don’t want salad everyday.  I decided to move to the next phase of the diet and add more food back in:  legumes, lentils, dairy milk, yoghurt, soft cheeses, more fruit and vegetables.  I will probably lose the weight slower now, but at least I am more likely to stick with diet.  I have been on the diet since January and I have fell off on three occasions (pizza, a mini quiche and a cheesecake bar…none was worth it)
HB and hubby are at home enjoying two weeks off school and work.  They have decided to stay home and just chill.
What do you guys think about the circus?  We wanted to buy tickets to the circus and then there was all this talk about the cruelty to animals and how could we.  To be honest I had checked and there was a whole thing on the circus website on how the animals are cared for etc…and it looked humane to me.
I have to say, I am not one who pays attention to animal charities and I flatly refuse to donate money to any animal charity.  That is my personal choice. I don’t hate animals, I always have pets and I do feel bad when I hear about animals being abused, but I feel more for children, and that is where my interest lies.  Each to his own and all that stuff.
Now I feel a little self conscious about wanting to give HB a circus experience. We are going anyway. As I say, each to his own and this is my choice.
PS:  Go check out …it is a great way to celebrate Mother’s Day.