Author Archives: MamaCat

School stuff.

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I am not sure why I do this to myself, OK, I guess I do it for HB.  This week we had two playdates.  For me that was a little too much, as the one was unplanned.

HB was invited out to swim (we have been having such hot weather) and I was reluctant to let him go alone to a house I had not seen, especially with a pool.  So I stayed for that one.  It was actually fine.  The mom and I always chat quickly when we fetch the kids, but at least now we got to know each other a bit better, and she is very nice. HB can go visit without me.  They are vigilant over the kids in the pool and HB is comfortable with both the dad and mom.
The one on Sunday was unplanned, but I have had the kid before, and it was not bad.  The mom and I sat and chatted for about an hour watching the kids play, and then I offered to drop him off later, since the boys thought they had not had enough playtime.
HB has a blast and was happy to reconnect with boys no longer in his class.
This meant that I was busy all weekend.  I was making pancakes and muffins and cooking and cleaning and felt like a full time job on top of all this was too much.
At nine in the evening I realised I had forgotten to cover HB’s book, with the dreaded contact plastic. I hate that stuff.  Why do teachers do this to us?  We don’t just cover a book, you have to cover over your kids artwork on the front, and it aint always flat artwork. The advantage of doing it so late was that I saw no bubbles 🙂
Hubby was working full long days all weekend, but he was nice enough to notice the clean house and complimented it.
My star child vacuumed the entire house by himself.  At this age, it is a fun thing to do.  I just have to keep an eye on him while picking up and he did it all.
I mopped the floors and HB was also very happy with his work.  I must say I was impressed.  He did the corners and a pretty good job.
The school uniform is driving me nuts.  I cannot get those white shirts clean, after only one wearing.  The have a blue and green embroidery and stripes in the collar, so it is not something I can stick in bleach.  Why does the school do this to us?
HB did well in the swim assessment, but my anxious mother heart cannot deal with him swimming unassisted in a 2m deep pool, so it is not an activity we have chosen. He swims outside school in a heated pool with an attentive coach, so he is not missing out. I was surprised he passed the assessment, as I did not think he had the stamina to swim 25m, but he did.
They grow so quickly, I want to grab him and say, stop, wait for me.
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New year stuff

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The new year begins with optimism and all good thoughts.  I had a lovely, and extremely busy break.  Two weeks of working very hard and ensuring kids were fed, bathed and happy.  Then one week of busy sight-seeing with our little family of three.

It was nice to sight see in the city I grew up in, and show it to hubby.  This is the first time we have managed to take time off together for a whole week in Durban (bar our wedding almost ten years ago).
Honeybear loved being part of a big family.  I loved reconnecting with all of our family and this year we really made a big effort on the family gatherings.
Hubby and I spent time together, really spent time together.  We did not really do a date like we planned, only because we did not know what to do with ourselves without HB, which is a little silly. We will work more on that one.
I loved having my nephews around and spending time with them.  I loved doing crafty things with the kids and making them weird lunches their moms don’t make. Haha, I think I loved being the favourite aunt all holiday.
This holiday I made lists of things to do, to get the maximum done, family activities done, crafts with the kids, and I forgot about rest time…which means my holiday was way busier than work time.
But it is back to work this week and things are already busy and I find myself only having ticked of one thing of my list from yesterday (it is a long list, and this is my pattern…and then I get going).
Our brains are weird like that.  I will make my list and start on it…to find something I can’t work out, like some retaining wall levels or something like that.  I will abandon it and continue to something else, but my lovely brain continues to work it out in the background, and then I suddenly get it.  Our brains are so amazingly made, that we can do such things. it is one of those things they tell you at school….if you cannot work it out, move onto the next problem, instead of wasting time.
I have no big new year’s resolutions, goals, plans…I just want to be happy and good. I want to be better at being me, which is not something I can just do in one sitting, it is going to take time, and I plan on being gentle and kind to myself.
This year I have also taken to planning HB too…he has a full schedule, I don’t want hm rushing from one thing to the other.  His quiet time and fun needs to be planned in, so we do not forget it.
We received a report from the school ed. psych. yesterday…if it was not email, I would have chucked it in the bin. I am not doing that to him again this year.  He has proven that he can do what needs to be done, just leave him to it.
Hubby is on a weightloss journey.  I am helping him…to try to get him to stick with it, instead of adhoc. It will help me eat better too (though I have given up this weight thing…I am going to be happy with me.  I refuse to be hungry.)

The last one for 2017.

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This is going to be the last post of the year.  We are off for three weeks on Friday.  IO am so looking forward to it.

This year has been an emotional rollercoaster and a year when I learned a few things:

  1. I am a good mother.  No headmistress, psychologist or teacher will ever again make me think I am any less than a good mother.  All a child needs is love.
  2. I am a good teacher.  I can find the way to make someone understand something.
  3. I am a not so good wife.  I have taken my husband for granted.  He is not just a supporting role in my story, he is my story.  This break is for reconnecting and reminding us both that I need to be nicer to him. He is my love.
  4. Changing jobs was one of the best things I have ever done this year.  I feel so much better.
  5. I am all about justice and doing the right thing…I need to remember that deciding what that is, is not my sole responsibility or right.
  6. I can do more than I think can and believing goes a long way to getting things done.
  7. I am a generally good person, but sometimes I am not….those sometimes need to be worked upon.
  8. I have lived away from my parents house for eleven years, but I still miss them terribly.
  9. Kindness is the best way to carry yourself.

Thank you ladies for all the support and kind words.

It was too long to reply in a comment…

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I wrote that post about offering lifts…and the reply was too long…..

I know things are terrible in terms of scams and crime in our country. But sometimes there is that person that tugs at your heart and you feel like you are supposed to help.
I used to often give people lifts and I stopped when HB came along, because as many have said, safety first. I have a family to think of.

But that day, if I was able to safely stop, I would have. I just felt, that this was just a mother struggling through the rain. Of course I know nothing, it never crossed my mind she and the child would do anything bad to me. Even when I wrote the post, it never crossed my mind about crime and scams, until the comments. Hubby often tells me I am far too naive about some things, which he finds strange in a woman who is so sure about just about everything.

I feel very sad about that lady and that is where the post came from. Hubby did not understand why helping her would cross my mind, and I could not understand where he was coming from. I think it is just one of those situations you have to be in and make the judgement call that your heart is at peace with. Driving on, was not the right thing for my heart, because I feel I could have found a place to stop, or other people would have been ok if I stopped in the road for a few minutes. It bothers me.

I do understand the argument for a dangerous situation, but I do judge myself as having made the wrong choice in that situation.

I should have helped her…here was me driving along in my brand new car, happy that it has a high ground clearance and the puddles where no problem, and there was the two walking without even the benefit of a second umbrella.

I am not here to judge anyone about anything…I often write posts that are to help me resolve something going on with me.