I will do the party post, I just need to collate the photos…I promise ladies. Today I want to talk about something else that has been at the forefront of my mind.
There are all my blog posts about the school and educational psychologists, etc.I have been through it all. The school said, we listened and then had to make the best decision for our child. I will not allow anyone else to decide for us. It is hard to decide and stand strong in the face of a “professional opinion”
We had a long meeting with the school principal, psychologist and teacher. I aired all my unhappiness and the way in which things have been going and basically it was a meeting for the principal to cover her staff.
Hubby and I were clear that the contrast in the school services and the services we paid for was miles apart, hence we have no faith in their abilities. We thanked them for bringing HB’s “deficiencies” to our attention. I also made it clear that they were lying about some stuff and I had had enough about this.
HB will progress to the next grade. We have had him tested, he is receiving support for his “deficiencies.” He is above average academically and between the private educational psychologist, and as parents, we know he is emotionally ready too. For the sensitive child we have, keeping him back another year may not be the best thing. Only you as the parent can know your child holistically. Only you will understand their intricacies, their sensitivities, the things that make them happy and the things that make them sad and scared. Do not be overwhelmed by all the professionals out there telling you the type of person your child is and what they think your child needs. I am not saying ignore and not listen. You should listen to all the separate pieces of information, but at the end of the day, make a decision you know is best for your child.
We have carefully thought about this. Any delays related to sensory issues, have not translated to the academics. He is not missing out on school work because of these apparent sensory issues. Also, he is receiving therapy for these things, every single day. The emotional problems cited by the teacher has only happened with the teacher. Not ever at aftercare, not ever for the month he spent at another school over the holidays, not ever at home or anywhere else, but that teacher’s classroom. In our opinion, the sooner he is out of there, the better. I am sure she is an excellent teacher, but she is not the right fit for my child.
We will not be forced by any of them because they tell us their business is children and they know what they are talking about. They have attached a label to my child and now that they cannot say he is behind academically, they say he has emotional problems. Not sure what they are, but they are there. I advise, keep notes of every single meeting you ever have. Write them down, because we as parents become emotional and forget. Just rite it all down. Write down how you are feeling.
I know holding children back an extra year in Grade 0 works wonders for many children. I was one of those kids that waited to go to school because of a late birthday. I flew through school. It was a breeze. But socially it was always a problem. I will not have HB have to do that when it is not entirely necessary. In his case, I do not think it will benefit him. It is not as if they are going to create a special academic programme for him. He is already becoming bored with some of the current programme, so what will happen next year when it is all the same thing? He is just going to end up being a child with behaviour problems. he is going to act up because he is bored. He is going to be upset when his friends move on. I know he will get over it eventually, but why put him through it in the first place.
Be strong parents. You love your child and your decisions come from a place of intense love for these little human beings. Listen to the educational professional, but stand strong in your love and do the best thing for your child. Your child is not a statistic, your child is not a number, your child is yours to love and protect.