Category Archives: Parenting my way



I am looking forward to the weekend.  It has been busy and hubby has been working the last two weekends.  I have no kiddie playdates organised, just one grownup playdate.

I have more beanies to crochet.  Guys, this project of RM’s is the perfect way to increase your skills.  I made some plain ones, which are really quick and easy and then I started out a stitch I have not tried before.  So this beanie project is brilliant to upskill yourself.  I have learned about the correct way to increase stitches, using a stitch marker has changed my life, I have learned how do that swirling cable beanie.  For me, this is a big wow.
I also have some personal sewing…have to take in the waists of my pants so that I don’t have a big pleat at the top.  It is a good feeling to be smaller, even if I am not totally healthier yet.
I promised HB some new gloves…he asked for plain ones.  My little boy is growing up. His teacher sent an email to me this morning to tell me he is doing really well this term and seems to be flying through the concepts.  It warms my heart to hear such positive comments.
Hubby an I agreed this morning that we are only saying good things and no little snappies (because we have started to be a tad cranky with each other….it comes from not seeing each other enough).
I also get to go enjoy some good traditional food with a cousin…I have not seen her in a long time.
I had a call from a friend I have not spoken to for a while and she had such good news to share.  It was good that when she wanted to share something brilliant, she gave me a call.
It is cold and sunny and I feel happy today…so many good things to be happy about.

Teacher gifts…to do or not?


Our littlee attends a school we pay quite a bit of money for.  We are fairly happy with the school and the teachers, etc.  I do feel there could be a bit more diversity in the staff but I am not sure what can be done about it.  I cannot even get them them to makes changes in the uniform, let alone staff.

Anyway, I digress.
How do you feel about gifts for staff?  I am not stingy but I do think we cannot give gifts to everyone on every occasion.  Engagements, birthdays, weddings, babies and this is not just the teachers and the principal.  It extends to the assistants, admin people and ground staff, including the security people.  This is a heap of people to dish out gifts to on all occasions.
We do flowers, card and choc on Valentines and then something again for Mother’s Day.  We contribute to the birthday gift.  Last year the teacher received a R1500 gift voucher and a party that included helium balloons, expensive flowers, cake, cupcakes, juice, fruit and decorations.
For me this is a bit over the top.  Surely it is about a gesture, and should not have to cost that much.  Parents are also required to be at the birthday tea (like we don’t have jobs to go to).
I don’t want to be a Scrooge, but I just feel that while teachers and school staff are a larger part of the lives of our children, we do pay a large amount of money to the school already.
I also suggested to Hubby that if we are going to be organised enough to collect money for the teacher’s gift, we should take that money and donate it to a charity in the teacher’s name, or buy books for a less privileged school or milk for some babies. I am just not sure that teachers in a private school require expensive gifts and parties.
Maybe the public school teachers are more deserving…bigger classes, smaller salaries…
What is your view?

The circus.


Hubby has dropped off the diet, well partially, because he is within sight of his healthy weight…I still have 10kgs more to go.

Without hubby it is a little harder to get the meals together, because I need to watch the portions sizes without wasting food.
It is colder and I don’t want salad everyday.  I decided to move to the next phase of the diet and add more food back in:  legumes, lentils, dairy milk, yoghurt, soft cheeses, more fruit and vegetables.  I will probably lose the weight slower now, but at least I am more likely to stick with diet.  I have been on the diet since January and I have fell off on three occasions (pizza, a mini quiche and a cheesecake bar…none was worth it)
HB and hubby are at home enjoying two weeks off school and work.  They have decided to stay home and just chill.
What do you guys think about the circus?  We wanted to buy tickets to the circus and then there was all this talk about the cruelty to animals and how could we.  To be honest I had checked and there was a whole thing on the circus website on how the animals are cared for etc…and it looked humane to me.
I have to say, I am not one who pays attention to animal charities and I flatly refuse to donate money to any animal charity.  That is my personal choice. I don’t hate animals, I always have pets and I do feel bad when I hear about animals being abused, but I feel more for children, and that is where my interest lies.  Each to his own and all that stuff.
Now I feel a little self conscious about wanting to give HB a circus experience. We are going anyway. As I say, each to his own and this is my choice.
PS:  Go check out …it is a great way to celebrate Mother’s Day.

Good things.

We had a brilliant parent teacher interview this week.  His teacher had only good things to say about HB.  It was such a lovely change from last year, where I did not even want to go to these things. I am so glad we did move him to the next grade, because HB had flown through the first term, he did not even need the “time to settle” he normally needs.  The school educational psychologist also met with us and said she feels that he needs no more intervention from her, he is settled and she is not worried about him not managing things by himself.
Hubby is back to normal scheduling so at least I am getting his full support again…which I need to get used to.  Yesterday he was reading with HB and I had to hold myself back from stepping and telling him what to do, because I have become used to the autonomy of me.  I did not manage to avoid getting miffed about my afternoon/ evening scheduling.  I get so snippy, it is not great…I need to let it go…because hubby is allowed to have his way too.
On the scheduling thing, I think we have got the hang of it.  A timetable was all we needed.  We wrote up the timetable, stuck it to our chalkboard and all is well.  No more forgetting library day or which uniform it is today.  We have it up there, including the after school activities and which homework and exercises need to be done.  I must say, I fully recommend a spot in the house where everyone can see what is going on.  We have this in the little passage.  It has a magnetic chalkboard the size of a door screwed onto the wall (we made this ourselves for really cheap).  Here we pin up the notices for the week, the timetable, passwords and logins to the apps we use for HB, photographs and just things we need to do.  It goes down to the floor, so it is accessible to HB too. Guests cannot see it, unless they go to our bedrooms and are really nosy.
Now that HB can read, it works even better.  I did not realise his reading skills were that good.  Hubby has put up a note for himself to remember to buy an easter bunny for HB…HB read the note and I had questions this morning.
We moved our Easter egg hunt to this weekend so that hubby is also part of the fun.  However, with the deferred hunt, the bunny was eaten already.
Three months into my diet and I seem to have stopped losing weight…a little demotivated about this, but I did already lose a heap and I guess this is pretty normal.  Most people seem to hit a point where they don’t lose weight for a bit and you just have to carry on and it will be fine.  The positives are that my skin and hair are doing great…I tend to have crocodile skin if I do not apply lotion immediately after I step out the shower, and this year I seem to be doing fine.
We are leaving work at 2 today (and hubby hads the day off)….it feels like such a treat.  We decided to go buy the easter bunny and then fetch HB early from school.
We can take him out to the field to go fly his drone (he really wanted one and hubby and I are also enjoying this little toy…I did not know they came with a camera).
On the work front, I have crunched through my list very well and I can leave early in peace.
So off to do the admin side of my job, nothing too crazy for the rests of the day.  Punching, filing and folding.
PS:  I did this way out design for a client and I did not expect much…but I was surprised to find that they will build my proposal as is.  This is big for me because it is a huge commercial project…not even one suggestion about changing a little here or there, which just about never happens.

That one about child restraints, again…


We have had many blogs about this, and I have written some myself too.  This morning I was driving along to drop HB off at school and then I rush through the traffic (hahahaha…in first gear) to get to the office before 08h00.

Episode 1:
I am in the lane going straight and to my right are two lanes that turn right.  Light changes and I start driving, only to find the woman on the right in her large SUV is driving into my lane.  I slow down and look over:  she is busy trying to steer right with her left hand while she is busy with her phone in the right hand.  How dare she put my and my child’s life in danger.
Episode 2:
In the car behind me is a women in a small hatch back, maybe a Ford Fiesta and she has her phone to her mouth, busy talking.  And leaning through from the back is a boy.  Not strapped in. Lady on the phone has her seatbelt on.  So she only cares about herself?
Episode 3:
I am driving behind a BMW SUV and there are two unstrapped children in the back seat…and the man driving is strapped in.  So he is safe, but not the kids who could go flying through the windscreen should we happen to brake suddenly.
Episode 4:
Behind me is a a new Toyota Etios, Sprint, sedan:  In the front seat is a child strapped in, with the car seat belt.  Not a car seat, not rear facing, just the car seatbelt. And I can read in my rear view mirror the sign on the sunshade that has those symbols on it that tell you how you should not use the front seat for a child.  The seatbelt cannot hold them, the airbag will most likely kill them, if it even manages to deploy, because this child was about 2 (she was a mom at HB’s school because I saw her in the parking area doing drop off).
I mention the cars because just to give you an idea of the slice across the financial lines here.  All of those cars have airbags and suitable restraints for children, eg:  isofix anchors, back seats. three point seat belts.  They all can manage to have bluetooth in them too.
We assume, wrongly, that a person who can afford a car, must have access to safety guidelines for children and roads.
Which is worse:  Only strapping yourself in, and not the child or having a 2 year old in the front seat (and because we have one, I know you cannot deactivate the Etios airbags).
I saw this all in one morning!!!!!!!!!!