My next project is a weighted blanket for HB. I have never heard of this before, but it was recommended by the educational psychologist. She said he may benefit from using one of these in the class, across the legs or shoulders. Apparently it provides the sensory requirements and may help him sit still. Proprioceptive sense will be helped by this. He seems to have an issue with this whole sitting still thing and she suggested deep compression massage and this blanket will help him. He loves loves loves the massage.
I feel like I want to run outside and scream it to everyone and anyone…MY CHILD IS FINE!!!!!!
We had the big assessment today and HB is fine…academically and emotionally and there is no need to keep him back to repeat a year. She says he is actually very intelligent.
Yes he does not always listen or sit still and needs to be moving, but that is not a big issue. We will do some exercises at home to encourage him to sit still for longer. He does not even need the speech therapy he is currently receiving. He just needs patience and tolerance.
It was suggested maybe there is a personality conflict between HB and the teacher and perhaps she is not being as patient as she should be.
I want to tell everyone that my baby is fine and just be nice to him. He is mine and he is fine and he is good and he is beautiful.
I sit here on Sunday evening and reflect on the weekend. It has been a busy one for us. HB had his first playdate without us. I was a little apprehensive, he was a little apprehensive, but we all were fine and he loved it.
While he was at this playdate we spoke to another psychologist for an outside assessment. I just cannot rest without knowing that we have tried everything to find out where is the problem and what we cab do. Hopefully, but the end of this month, we have all the information we need to make a decision.
We then had to attend school event and I was nearly ready to fall over by the time we arrived home. I had started the day feeling nauseous from an incredible headache which then intensified further and a day in the sun did not help one little bit.
Today, Sunday, I worked all day from six this morning. I have been holed up in HB’s room, working away and I still feel like I have a ton to do. No matter, by the end of tomorrow I shall have a set of documentation ready to go.
I still managed to fit in a reading session with HB. We have exhausted the school guide and now we have moved onto the consonants. Even the psychologist said we should not worry about this academic thing. She said he sounds fine and will specifically check these things for us. At least she bothered to find out what is our expectation from all this.
Onto the new week. I shall be in the office at 6am to make sure that my work is done by three tomorrow afternoon. It feels like an exam and I just need ot make it through, which I know I can.
Have a great week bloggies, we owe it to ourselves.
It is so lovely to watch the joy on HB’s face when he realises he can read. He can actually read by himself…and when he realised he could do it, he was so extremely excited…the look on his face made me want to cry.
I don’t remember learning to read, I am sure I must have been formally taught to read. I don’t remember that joy HB felt when he realised he could read by himself.
Hubby even made a video for him, and showed it to HB…him reading by himself, with me just pointing to the words. Without even trying to teach him, he seems to have picked up the sight words by himself. I have just been concentrating on the synthetic phonics, because that is what he needs to learn, but the reading seems to have allowed him to work out the sight words at the same time.
With all the talk about how behind my little boy, this little achievement gives me the confidence to know, even if he is a few months behind the rest of his class, he can still do it. He still has the ability to read and love it.
I have been so afraid, he will not want to read, because it is all about school work. I know he does not love schoolwork, however, we have to do it. We go to the library and he is allowed to choose whatever he wants to read. He does understand there are English and Afrikaans books, so he will ask if a book is Afrikaans. Then there are the books we read for school. These readers are excellent. We read the first round, with him only reading the phonics. Second round is him reading all the words he thinks he knows and third round is reading with actual expression. He loves the stories, and I like being able to sit with him and read too, not just instruct.
We now use this manner of reading with all books.
In the meantime he has also learnt to read different fonts (which we had not actually taught to him…and he has picked up most of the capital letters). At this stage they do not learn capitals. Maybe it is for next term, I am not sure.
In the end we decided to make an actual appointment with another educational psychologist for an assessment. There is only one term of school left, and we need to make decisions and prepare our child for Grade 1 or staying another year in Grade 0. A proper school readiness assessment will help us make that decision. The school will want one by their staff psychologist, but it happens too late in the year. We also need to understand the ways in which he needs help from an emotional point of view. The wait and see approach is not working, and the distraction of the school staff with personal issues, means he is not getting the full help he needs at school. Whether he stays or moves on is immaterial at this point, it is about making the right decision for him. I feel I cannot rely on the school alone to make this decision.
While I feel for the personal lives of the school staff, I cannot put that in front of the needs of my child. I will do everything I can do to make sure he remains happy and know that he is loved.