I was up early on the cold Saturday morning making pancakes for HB….it was all mommy guilt. The day before I fetch him from school t o find that he had lost a second pair of shoes in two weeks. I was so angry with him. I told him he is getting no TV, and this, time, no toys or books either. He just needs to go to his room and face the wall until bedtime. I was so angry as that is almost R600 for the two pairs of shoes and socks.
However, I knew I was very angry and I did not want to be shouty crazy mom, so I did let him watch TV, because I needed a timeout for myself.
Sunday found me buying a new pair of shoes for him (at this stage he only has his house boots, which he was wearing out, and his brown school shoes…I had to buy new shoes). He offered for us to sell the WII, but I said it was fine. We will not sell it (who would buy it anyway), but he will not be allowed to play anymore and no more tuck shop treats on Fridays, in fact no more treats at all.
The no more treats thing is going to be hard because we have a birthday party, and a stage outing planned for this week…and both are going to come with treats. Also, we need for him to get a vaccination, which usually involves a treat.
But back to the pancakes: he was very hurt by me telling him he would have to look at a wall all evening. He was even teary up on Saturday when we spoke about it. He did ask for a play date, but I said that he could not have one, due to the shoes.
How do you deal with your child losing their school stuff? I started taking things away, but there is not much more to take. I am not in the habit of punishing, and what punishment is appropriate? Also, he is not doing anything out of the ordinary for his age group, all the kids are losing stuff everyday. I see it in the class group. His teacher mentioned that he is one of the better ones at remembering, but still, it does get expensive. As to why the stuff does not get returned?…all I can think is that someone else has his clearly marked items and has not returned it. My phone number is on everything…..?