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How I hate thee.


There is this thing called housework and I hate it.  I am not sure how other woman feel about it, but I hate it.

I feel like a waste a large part of my life doing housework.  I have actually taken to writing it up in my diary and striking things off my list.  My husband is not lazy, but housework does not bother him in the same way it bothers me.  I cannot stand to have dishes in the sink or things lying about on the counter.  I need the sheets washed at a minimum of weekly.  I have to clean the stove and oven and fridge and freezer.  I have to move the couches and clean the bathroom and dust window sills.  It bothers me that I cannot reach my windows to wash them.
I don’t like things lying out of place.  This unsettles me and I cannot relax.  If I plan on having guests over, I feel like I need to clean more.  All of this creates stress in my life and I hate housework…because no matter how much I clean and tidy, it is never enough.  Yes, we get domestic help every second week, but it is not enough.  There are things that are beyond the service and they just don’t get it all done and I cannot understand why.  Even with help, I still have to do laundry because their service does not include any laundry.  I still change my own sheets and wash them.  I still clean the fridge and the oven and the stove.  I still have to wash out the draining rack and I still have to wash the bin and the patio floors and move the couches to clean up under them.  Those things never get done and that is what I want done.  I can sweep floors and wash dishes.  I don’t want help with those things.
I want someone to take down the curtains and wash and hang them back up.  I want my light switches cleaned and all canvasses on  the walls dusted. I want  my doors wiped down and the splashback at the stove cleaned.  I want all the weird things cleaned.  I can clean my own bathroom and I do.  I want the skirtings and dado rails cleaned.  I want all my books to be dusted and returned to shelves.  I want the slip covers cleaned.
How do you get a domestic service that does all this?  The current service we use is not working for me.  They asked what I wanted and I said what I wanted, but it does not get done. To make matters worse the last lady went home with our house keys and then I had to call her boss and get it back.  Then we had the expense of changing our locks because we don’t know the lady and she had out keys for 24 hours. Then I come home to find my furniture rearranged my lights on, the vacuum cleaner left outside in the rain and the chores not done.  I was told by her boss that she is excellent.  She may have been having an off day at our place.  Up to now, I am still trying to locate things she stuck into drawers and corners.  I am not sure why she did it, because putting things into drawers was something I specifically asked not to be done.  She hung up the sopping wet cloths against HB’s dry white school uniform.  I was irritated, but I did not complain, I just did not book another service.
How does everyone else live with this.  I do the fifteen minute tidy up, but I cannot seem to keep on the top of it anymore. Maybe I am being obsessive.  I just want a clean house.

School stuff.


I am not sure why I do this to myself, OK, I guess I do it for HB.  This week we had two playdates.  For me that was a little too much, as the one was unplanned.

HB was invited out to swim (we have been having such hot weather) and I was reluctant to let him go alone to a house I had not seen, especially with a pool.  So I stayed for that one.  It was actually fine.  The mom and I always chat quickly when we fetch the kids, but at least now we got to know each other a bit better, and she is very nice. HB can go visit without me.  They are vigilant over the kids in the pool and HB is comfortable with both the dad and mom.
The one on Sunday was unplanned, but I have had the kid before, and it was not bad.  The mom and I sat and chatted for about an hour watching the kids play, and then I offered to drop him off later, since the boys thought they had not had enough playtime.
HB has a blast and was happy to reconnect with boys no longer in his class.
This meant that I was busy all weekend.  I was making pancakes and muffins and cooking and cleaning and felt like a full time job on top of all this was too much.
At nine in the evening I realised I had forgotten to cover HB’s book, with the dreaded contact plastic. I hate that stuff.  Why do teachers do this to us?  We don’t just cover a book, you have to cover over your kids artwork on the front, and it aint always flat artwork. The advantage of doing it so late was that I saw no bubbles 🙂
Hubby was working full long days all weekend, but he was nice enough to notice the clean house and complimented it.
My star child vacuumed the entire house by himself.  At this age, it is a fun thing to do.  I just have to keep an eye on him while picking up and he did it all.
I mopped the floors and HB was also very happy with his work.  I must say I was impressed.  He did the corners and a pretty good job.
The school uniform is driving me nuts.  I cannot get those white shirts clean, after only one wearing.  The have a blue and green embroidery and stripes in the collar, so it is not something I can stick in bleach.  Why does the school do this to us?
HB did well in the swim assessment, but my anxious mother heart cannot deal with him swimming unassisted in a 2m deep pool, so it is not an activity we have chosen. He swims outside school in a heated pool with an attentive coach, so he is not missing out. I was surprised he passed the assessment, as I did not think he had the stamina to swim 25m, but he did.
They grow so quickly, I want to grab him and say, stop, wait for me.

I am still here.

I was in the office really early this morning, while it was still dark and cold.  I had every intention of writing a blog, because I have been such a bad blogger.
Here I am quickly typing in what should by my tea break, but it is still too busy and I have so much to do, that I do not where to start and I have stopped.
Honeybear is a three, halfway to four year old now.  He has a definite personality and I have found he is a very sensitive little boy.  I am happy to see that he is a lot more social now.  It worried me that he did not seem to want to be with other kids, but he seems to have blossomed now and is really one to be the centre of attention.  Even with kids older than he is, his quiet ways seem to attract them.  I am not sure if it is that he is quiet or maybe because he has a prettiness about him that seems attractive.  I know you are thinking I am such a conceited Mama, but I am looking at this objectively.
Makes me think that pretty people tend to maybe have it easier in life?  That is a whole other blog.
We are still doing the school search.  We did find a lovely school and I want him to go there, however, fetching him every afternoon in time is an issue.  I do not how to resolve this.  There are ways but all rely on someone else to cut me some slack.

1.  My boss could allow me to adjust my working hours so I could leave early enough to fetch Honeybear.
2.  We would organise aftercare closer to my work, which I am not happy with, because I have to rush out at lunch and fetch him and get back to work.  Also, I oftern have meetings out of the office which do not respect lunch hour.
3.  Find another school and pay a whole heap more on school fees.

I guess we will eventually work something out, right now, I do not know.  Anyone have suggestions?

Hubby is my love and my darling and I love him so much, even when I am tired of picking up after him.  At least we can sit and talk and work through things.  I wish I could settle on some domestic help, but right now I do not have the time or the patience to work it out.  We mostly fight about housework, which is dumb and a waste, but a clean house is really important to me.  I have tried to let it go, but I have not been able to.  The answer would be domestic help, but where do I find that?  Reliable and at a decent rate?  I used to love the cleaning service we had.  They were efficient, reliable and they only took two hours to clean up with their team of three, which meant they were not in my space all day. Guess I will get desperate enough to work something out there too.

I am going going going and work is too busy.  My workload is far more than I can handle. People have resigned and the rest of us have to pick up the slack.  I just do not have enough time in a day.  I am not sure what the solution is.  I thin they are struggling to find replacements, and until there is a replacement, I have to do more than I can.

I also managed to get my very own tiny commercial project.  It is tiny, but I love commercial work, and I could not say no.  So I have even more to fit into my day.

I have been a good girl, and I have been exercising too.  I just gave up on going outside the house and we bought an exercise machine, which is actually working out really well.  Hubby and I challenge each other and we do more and more every day.

I have made my peace and I have definitely decided I am not having another child.  I was torn up about it for a while.  I really broody. I was starting to produce breast milk again (which may or may not have anything to do with the broody mindset).  I did take myself off to the doctor to get it checked out anyway, and since there is nothing wrong with me, they figure it was best left alone, to be checked again in a few months.

I have two days off work to go to a conference (with the bosses).  I hope they do not bother me with work stuff.  I really want to just sit and listen and learn something new.  I know some of my friends will be there/  I was thinking I will get there early and go sit far away from the bosses.  Though they are likely to catch me anyway.  I also need to hang out with them to network and be introduced etc.  Ugh, networking is not my strong point at all.  This also means I still have to dress properly.

Talking of dressing, I am struggling a bit.  I have to dress corporate enough or the office, but I still need some hard-wearing clothes that I can wear when I am on site.  I find anything beside jeans gets dangerous on site, because I cannot freely climb up scaffold etc.  Also, I wear heels and my pants are adjusted like that, so when I wear safety shoes, they drag on the floor. (very unsafe) The minutiae of my life! Sorry guys.
Guess I will work out that one too, eventually.

Even if I am very busy and sound whacked, I am in  my happy place.

PS: I am not doing spell check right now

How I hate house work


I just cannot understand why our house gets as dirty as is does. We do dishes, laundry and the floors every day or at least every second day (if there is not too much waiting).

Yesterday, I almost did not want to go home. I knew there was a mess waiting for me and I just did not have it in me to clean up. I almost wanted to cry.

Hubby works really long hours, so I cannot really expect him to pitch in with 50% of the chores, but sometimes I just want a break. OK I can have a break, but it also means I have to pay for that break later, because nothing cleans itself.

I also do not feel comfortable ironing when Honeybear is awake and running around, and to be honest, when he is sleeping, I also want a break, I do not want to be doing house work.

I always say there are more important things in life than a clean house…but sometimes I just cannot face it. I hate housework.

Anyway, I deemed crying over a dirty house was really silly and I walked in. I sorted Honeybear out with toys and snacks and I started cleaning from Honeybear’s bedroom out. I started at 17h00 and I worked through, only stopping to give Honeybear dinner and call my sister. I was still busy when Hubby arrived home at 21h30. I have not even finished. I still have the kitchen to fix this afternoon. I just want overhaul all the cupboards and see what is what.

Come this weekend, I do not want to think of housework. Just some laundry and dishes, but that is about it.

On the LCHF front: It is not going too badly, and there are enough things to cook, as long as I have planned ahead. I have almost worked potatoes out…we have not bought any for 3 weeks….we did buy 5 for our camping trip but I can see a life without potatoes, we do not need to eat as often as used to eat it.

Bread is still a challenge. I have thought about trying those recipes you can get for grain free bread but I have not come across anything I really want to do yet. They are either too expensive containing almond flour, or just look gross. I think I just have to get out of the idea of sandwiches and then we should be fine.

Rice and pasta were never huge on our menu, so that is not bothering anyone yet.

I have talked about this way of eating to hubby and while he thinks it has merits, he does not want to change. However, he has not realised, yet, what I am doing.   I cook and I usually control the shopping lists, even if he is buying it. He never pays enough attention to what we have in the house to make up the shopping list. He does not question me. Let us see were we go with this.

I have totally disregarded the fruit thing for now.

I have to be honest, this way of eating is actually more expensive. The meat is the cheapest part of this diet. The vegetables on the list are the higher priced range, compared to the things you are not supposed to eat. If you look at mushrooms which are at R90/kg compared to potatoes which are R9,99/kg. All dairy is expensive, but we ate that anyway so it is not affecting the budget. Buying butter is way more expensive than buying margarine spread. Have you seen the price of ghee? It is way overpriced if you compare it to good old sunflower oil.

Anyway there are ways and means around everything. I just have to find them.