My next project is a weighted blanket for HB. I have never heard of this before, but it was recommended by the educational psychologist. She said he may benefit from using one of these in the class, across the legs or shoulders. Apparently it provides the sensory requirements and may help him sit still. Proprioceptive sense will be helped by this. He seems to have an issue with this whole sitting still thing and she suggested deep compression massage and this blanket will help him. He loves loves loves the massage.
I feel like I want to run outside and scream it to everyone and anyone…MY CHILD IS FINE!!!!!!
We had the big assessment today and HB is fine…academically and emotionally and there is no need to keep him back to repeat a year. She says he is actually very intelligent.
Yes he does not always listen or sit still and needs to be moving, but that is not a big issue. We will do some exercises at home to encourage him to sit still for longer. He does not even need the speech therapy he is currently receiving. He just needs patience and tolerance.
It was suggested maybe there is a personality conflict between HB and the teacher and perhaps she is not being as patient as she should be.
I want to tell everyone that my baby is fine and just be nice to him. He is mine and he is fine and he is good and he is beautiful.
I sit here on Sunday evening and reflect on the weekend. It has been a busy one for us. HB had his first playdate without us. I was a little apprehensive, he was a little apprehensive, but we all were fine and he loved it.
While he was at this playdate we spoke to another psychologist for an outside assessment. I just cannot rest without knowing that we have tried everything to find out where is the problem and what we cab do. Hopefully, but the end of this month, we have all the information we need to make a decision.
We then had to attend school event and I was nearly ready to fall over by the time we arrived home. I had started the day feeling nauseous from an incredible headache which then intensified further and a day in the sun did not help one little bit.
Today, Sunday, I worked all day from six this morning. I have been holed up in HB’s room, working away and I still feel like I have a ton to do. No matter, by the end of tomorrow I shall have a set of documentation ready to go.
I still managed to fit in a reading session with HB. We have exhausted the school guide and now we have moved onto the consonants. Even the psychologist said we should not worry about this academic thing. She said he sounds fine and will specifically check these things for us. At least she bothered to find out what is our expectation from all this.
Onto the new week. I shall be in the office at 6am to make sure that my work is done by three tomorrow afternoon. It feels like an exam and I just need ot make it through, which I know I can.
Have a great week bloggies, we owe it to ourselves.
This drama of the school thing had me so down for the earlier part of this week. We had our all inclusive meeting and I left it feeling like the worst tiger mother and so sad and inadequate.
The three women turned up late and unprepared, so it was a waste of time, as the could offer nothing in terms of the way forward. I found them to be patronising and uninformed.
I was so upset, I just cried and that continued up to yesterday. I have seriously been considering moving him to another school.
Moving schools is not a really feasible option for us because we really do not have the money to just move, and really that school is a very good school and it was a carefully considered decision when we chose that school for HB. All my feelings yesterday is a very unconsidered emotional response, not necessarily rational. The money we can make a plan, and that fact will not be the deciding factor. HB’s well being will always be the only factor.
The principal was not in the meeting, because I decided not to ask her, and escalate the whole thing to a level we could not resolve. Anyway, she did call me and we had a long chat.
I then decided, all caution to the wind, and I was frank with her that I feel the teacher is not giving him a chance to be himself, and he is has been forced into a label, and I feel that he cannot shake that label if he remains in that teacher’s class. I also said that we were considering moving schools, because this is all too much. I just feel my child needs to be given a chance to learn in his way and also, he is not in Grade 1 so can we please stop forcing that pressure onto him.
I was also clear that I think the teacher is not making an effort to assess him properly. I mentioned that we are paying for a private school for one on one attention for our child in the class, so I cannot accept it when the class teacher says she cannot give it to him.
The principal was very calming, objective and she was great to talk to. She invited us to observe in the class anytime we feel like it (not that I think that will help, because it is not as is we can do it secretly).
I am glad I told the principal everything that has been going around in my head, because she helped putting it into perspective. She also knows that we are not going to sit back while our child is walked all over. I may have been totally out of line criticising the teacher, but I did say, it was my subjective view of the teacher, and I do realise that it is not necessarily a true reflection of the teacher. I was also clear that I felt that they are not helping and I wish they could provide more direction.
I have made enquiries to get a private evaluation for HB, but I have held off actually making the appointment. He has enough with all the testing and I think he needs to know he is good enough just the way he is. Even if he cannot read or whatever the teacher feels, he is good enough and is our darling child and we love him, and do not need for him to bend into a pretzel to fit into a mould.