One of the big reasons I do not employ someone to help me with housework, is that I have extreme guilt. I cannot fire them. I seem unable to tell them when they are doing something wrong and then just live with it, because I cannot bring myself to say it.
I also feel under huge pressure to make a proper breakfast and lunch and offer tea. It gets too much and then I end up not employing someone in the first place.
Now I really need the help, because the weekends are too busy to get the proper cleaning done, and really the house is looking a tad sad.
I also would like someone to clean during the week while we are not there, but again I feel huge guilt for making them walk from the main gate to our house. On weekends, I fetch whoever from the taxi and then drop them off at the taxi after. And then I feel the need to give them dinner to take home, because they have been working all day for me. I have also been I told I pay too much and to be honest I cannot afford to pay those rates anyway. I also do not know how much is too long a day, and then end up letting them go before they finish everything.
Employing someone to help with housework, basically stresses me out to no end. A friend told me I need to stop with this stuff. It is employment and the women do not feel they need all the things I think they should have.
I also feel bad for letting whoever come clean up alone, and end up cleaning along with them, because I feel bad about it, hence they need to be there when I am at work, so I do not end up doing all the housework anyway.
Is there is a group for stupid people like me? Are there lesson I can get somewhere? Weirdly enough, I have no trouble criticising and redlining work when I am at the office. In fact, I can be quite harsh.