This morning we had another meeting with the class teacher to discuss HB. This time it seems he had an episode of note, that I even had a call from the school principal about it. I am not sure what else we are supposed to do. He is seeing a speech therapist, he is seeing the psychologist, and we never have these incidents at home.
I was frank with the teacher, that we do not experience these things at home, so I am not sure what to do. We cannot punish or guide behavior we are not experiencing ourselves. The same of the classwork…at home he can read and write and count, but apparently he does not do it in class. In class he does not want to do the work and sometimes out right refuses to do anything.
I am not making it up. We have all the workbooks and worksheets and counting tiles and flashcards…we sit every evening after dinner and go through the things they need to know. I make up word problems, write up the maths problems and he does it all, without resistance, and he knows what he is doing, so why is this not working in class? I feel like it is almost futile. This is not a naughty child. He is not worse than any other child I know. I just don’t know what to do anymore.
I do not want him to come home and have to face punishment because he did not do his work at school. I do not want him to feel that all we do is punish. I wish there was some way to find out what is going on in his head. There must be some reason that he is doing the things that he is doing. What is going on in class that he refuses to co-operate, when I know he knows the work. I know he can count because I have sat and listened to him count to 120, without any problems…and the teacher tells me he cannot count. He can count backwards from 10, he can count in twos up to 20. He can recognise all the phonics and he can read three and four letter words. He can read a three word sentence. I can tell him a word problems and he can give me the correct answer. He can do a 100 piece puzzle and he has done five different puzzles in the last two months, but at school he cannot do a 48 piece puzzle.
I can tell him a word or show him a picture and he can spell it out for me. He writes and cuts and colours and sticks and all this means ZILCH….because for whatever reason he cannot do it in class. Cannot, will not, I don’t know.
I want to beat me chest and stamp my feet and pull out my hair and cry. He is not yet six years old and will only be six half way through September. He is my baby and will someone just give him a chance, PLEASE.