We had our parents meeting and I left feeling like there is no hope. Last year this time we signed up Honeybear for Speech Therapy. While I did not feel like the therapy was fully warranted, but I did not want to be one of those parents who ignore problems. My feelings were right, when the assessment at the end of the year (after months of speech therapy and a new therapist), it was found he has no problems outside what are normal for his age.
I decided, with the therapist’s advice, that he continue for one term into this year, to ensure that he got a hang on the phonics, as this is the first time they are learning phonics, and grounding etc….is important.
This meeting this week, the teacher says he has no speech issues, but she thinks we must keep him in therapy because there he gets one on one help with the therapist. So now the therapy is for phonics tuition? When we sit at home, there is only two that he mixes up, the b and d. And the teacher says that is common to all the children.
The teacher suggests that there must be a confidence issue int he class environment which is why he cannot say what he knows in the class. She also says he starts to cry and stops responding and she has had to take him to lie in the sick room a few times, until he clams down. The one time, I knew about it, and she also admitted it was an understandable situation of why he was so worked up. The principal who oversees all the sick room kids, tells me he has only been there once (the one incident I know about). So is the teacher lying to me? Why did she not tell me about any of the other incidents like she told me about the one?
She also says he needs to go see the school psychologist. Why? Because he tends to get shy and sometimes very stubborn. I agreed, because her reasons were so weak and I wanted to laugh. I am wondering if she thinks there is something wrong in our home environment and she is looking for a way to send him to the psychologist?
I am at the end of it all.
Every day, I sit with that child of mine and I go through all the phonics, counting, vocabulary…everything. Everything! If you read his report, he has achieved everything he needs to achieve for his age group. He is on par with the class, and he also performed better in some areas, like any other child. He is no Einstein, but he is keeping up…so I cannot see where this comes from. I was taken aback by the whole thing about the psychologist and speech therapy I never asked her why the report says one thing and she (who made the report) is saying something else. She says he cannot keep up in the class, but then she assessed him, in the report as having achieved all that needs to be achieved this year.
She says he just needs to know the sounds, not be able to actually read words this year, but then she also says that he cannot read the words. So which is it? I know he cannot read words, he does not understand that the sounds make up words. But it is not a thing he needs to know in Grade 0. Even the speech therapist says that while some kids, the girls especially, are able to read words, it is a stretch to expect him to be able to read in the first term.
I just cannot understand where this all comes from. I am a good mother, hubby is a good father. We actually spend time with Honeybear, going through his school work.
I do everything I possibly can to make sure my child is healthy and happy, but it does not seem to work.
I have an appointment with the speech therapist for sometime next week, to understand what the speech issue is. If it is just phonics tuition, then I am going to stop this.
The psychologist will only happen next term when the kids are back at school. I feel like we can do nothing right. My child is fine, but he is not fine. I have even let him come back and sleep in our bed, because maybe he he is not ready to sleep in his own room, and we must be emotionally destroying him because we insist he must sleep in his own room.
When I speak to other parents, of kids in his class and in other schools, Honeybear seems like he is doing everything that they are doing. He cries the same amount, he is sensitive like they are, he cannot read like they don’t read. In fact, the reading at the private school down the road only teach reading from Grade 1. It is not an issue in Grade 0, like my child has in the very first term of Grade 0.
I do understand I am currently being one of those parents I do not want to be. I refuse to accept that there is something wrong with my child.