It has been one busy day after another. Finally had a sit down with both the directors about workload…and nothing can be done really. Everyone has too much to do and I actually am not sure when there will be more staff. At least I feel better about discussing the workload with them. And a good thing came out of it all…they have agreed to adjust my woring hours next year. This is such a huge relief for me.
Leaving the office a whole 30 minutes earlier will mean we can get Honeybear into the great school we looked at a while ago. I can fetch him. So I now need to get my act in gear and pay all the fees etc that I need to for the school. Since he is young, there is no assessments at this stage, parents just have to be able to pay the fees. Also, once he is in, he is in. This school goes all the way up to Grade 12, so I feel like we will be OK.
Hubby and I have been a little unhappy with each other. I feel he is always at work, and even when he is at home, he is on the phone sorting out work stuff. I know he has lots to do, and I know there are work pressures, but I know so well, because I have it too. Unfairly maybe, but I feel there should be no competition to family. If I have to walk out the office door at five, so can hubby. I said to him last night (maybe said not so nicely) that there seems to be different expectations for me and for him. I have to be the one to fill in all the gaps when his work takes over, but there is no such give from his side. I must be the one to leave on time, and I must be the one to organize home, and dinner and Honeybear’s activities. I want to be there for my child, and I want a nice clean house and a home cooked meal, so I make an effort, and I guess I am feeling like he is not making any efforts anymore, it is expected I must make a plan.
I know he cares, but I do think he needs to get his work into perspective. Work is important, but so is family and I want him to understand where I am coming from. I guess it does not help the situation if I say it to him in a rant.
After you have a child having an argument with your spouse is really difficult. What on earth do you do? How does one successfully solve your issues, in a calm, non-angry way, without your child hearing? I am a believer in just talking about everything and getting it sorted out. While we both do not believe in shouting and rarely do, we do get angry. I hate for Honeybear to see or hear, and I just do not know what the right way to do it is. We certainly;y do not want to damage the child. It would be better if we are always sweet and not disagreeing, but it does happen, and I guess we are struggling with the best way to deal with it with Honeybear around.
Swimming for Honeybear is going great now. He suddenly just started doing all the things that the instructor has been trying to teach him. She did say it just happens one day, and it is the way with kids, but I did not really believe her. So we have our swimming break through and he will move to the next class in three months.
We were visiting a friend during the weekend, and I was so proud of my child. The teaching is paying off, and he was such a polite and well mannered child. The contrast between my friends kid and Honeybear was pretty obvious. While I am currently being a monster mom, by criticizing her child right now. She also did comment on it and I would like to think Honeybear is setting a good example to be followed.
She also has a little baby ans while I played with the little one and I was happy to rock her and hold her, I am not broody in the least. Honeybear will grow up without a sibling for right now, but I am sure he is going to turn out just fine.
My littlest sister is also grown up now. She and her hubby moved into their very own house over the weekend. It is amazing how people grow and change and just are able to do everything they need to do.
Back to the grindstone. Have a great week bloggies!