Honeybear is doing well at school and he seems to be having a developmental growth spurt. There are so many new things coming along. Singing and dancing and cutting and coloring inside the lines. He has a much bigger vocabulary. He finally understands the concept of colours, numbers and self. It seems like you try to teach and you get no where, and one day they suddenly know it.
I want to start to teach him about swimming and water safety. Hubby and I disagree on the best approach. I think I am right, because I actually know how to swim. Hubby does not. I suggested the two of them have swimming lessons together, but Hubby does not want to. For now I want to teach Honeybear myself, because I am not comfortable with swimming lessons where I am not allowed to be with my child. I need to know for myself that he knows the basics and that he will listen to a teacher.
I worry endlessly that I am enabling Honeybear’s reserve. He is child that takes a while to get used to people. He does not take to strangers quickly and I allow him to take his time. I do not force him to meet people he does not want to interact with, I let him burrow into my shoulder to avoid people, Hubby will take him away if he needs to get away. I do not like to force him to do things, and Hubby believes I let too many things slide (Hubby does the same as I btw).
I wonder if I need to get him to interact more with other people. Maybe I am doing a disservice to my child by allowing him to shy away from others. It does make life very difficult, because we are cannot just leave him with anyone to babysit. Signing him up for extra activities does not work, because he will not deal with new teachers easily. Last year it took three months before he settled down and began to love Monkeynastix. This year we just left him in the same thing, only because I cannot deal with the stress of an unhappy child.
Sleeping in our bed….I still do not mind, I think Hubby is beginning to mind. However, once again, I do not want to force. Gently cajole is my plan. I told Honeybear he can have a dog (a huge toy one), if the dog can sleep in his bed with him. My child loves animals, especially dogs and he goes so far as to pretend he is a dog himself. This Saturday I want to take him shopping to pick out his own dog. I am hoping the new pillow (a lovely one my Dad made for him) and his new dog might do the trick. I am not sure I can actually sleep with him in another room.
Yes we have the baby monitor and he is just in the next room, but I am worried. Honeybear and I sleep glued to each other. Not so great for me, but touch is very important to him. It calms him down to know someone is next to him. He only started to sleep through the night when we let him sleep in our bed. It took three whole years to achieve sleeping though the night, and I am not sure I am up to waking up multiple times a night to placate a child who does not want to sleep in his room.
On the upside of everything, I am busy doing my amazing thing and I am all warm and fuzzy J