Since I have all this time… I may as well write a blog post. I have been hopelessly neglecting this blog.
My darling little boy is more darling every day. I look at him, and I cannot imagine what great thing I must have done to deserve a gift like this. He is beautiful, sweet, strong willed, intelligent…everything I need him to be.
At the end of last year I was told that he does not know anything, and maybe they need to keep him back in the same class. My baby was falling school at three already. I was worried, and Hubby and I spoke about things. I was very certain he could do a lot of the things they said he could not, and I did not think it was important that he knows colors and shapes and counting up to ten at three. Yes, there are kids out there who know, but my baby is not one of them.
I figured the language might be an issue, because the only shape he knows is circle. I think it is because the English and Afrikaans words sound the same for that shape.
December we went to Durban, and my mind was put at ease. Kids older than my baby do not know that stuff, and two of my aunts (who are foundation phase teachers) assured me that at three, my baby is not backward, and he does not need to know. It was explained at this age, teaching and learning is incidental. Eg. I say look at the orange bus, and he learns what the colour orange is.
So moving on, he moved to the new class, and lo and behold…the new teacher says my baby is keeping up. He is not a talker, he is an introvert (which I already know). She says he is quiet, but he actually knows what he is doing. He keeps up with the class. I did ask that they teach in English please (they were supposed to be doing that in the first place).
I did not want to be one of those mothers who refuse to listen when someone says your child is not developing as he should. I think he is fine, and I know I have not harmed him by not letting him stay back in the old class. At his age, and sensitivity, his social attachments are far more important. He would have missed his friends and definitely his bestie.
However, the time has come to actively search for an English medium school. This bilingual thing is not working, because some schools do not respect the fact that English children actually live in Pretoria. So they advertise as bilingual, but teach in Afrikaans only. While I have nothing against Afrikaans, I need him to learn in English.
Hubby and I have been better, and he makes the most delicious smoothies for me (still sticking with that one).
We have lost our cleaning service, and at the moment I do not have the patience to go look for another one, or a domestic worker type. This does mean I have to spend a large chunk of Saturday morning cleaning up (hubby is working every other Saturday). I love walking into a clean and tidy house. Mt aim this year is get rid of all the junk to make cleaning easier. I also want to have the kitchen updated and made pretty and nice again.
We had a call from the in laws and they need money. I knew this was coming, and I am surprised it took this long. Hubby was livid. He has asked them numerous times to come live closer to us, especially since his Dad dos not seem to be doing well, and his Mom cannot take care of him, she needs help herself. I thin Hubby is worried about them and he is frustrated he cannot help them from 1400km away. Throwing money at the situation is not helping it, just enabling a failing lifestyle.
I do not know what to say to Hubby. I suggested, instead of giving them extra money which always seems to be squandered, we should take over paying for something essential to their well being, like medical aid, or organizing grocery delivery once a month. We can shop on the internet and have it delivered, that way we know they are actually eating.
I just wish they would listen. At this point I am even amenable to them coming and living in our house. However, I am the evil daughter in law, so I am why they will not listen. (Ok maybe it is not that bad, they do not think I am evil)