I was driving home yesterday and now that Honeybear is almost three there are a few things I have learned in the time I have been a mother. The list below is in no particular order and neither is it everything.
- I have learned that my child will learn to drink out of a normal cup whether or not I started at 6 months or 2 years old. It is a skill he has eventually picked up without me having to try the most expensive sippy cup or medela feeding cup.
- My child will eat food. Again, I know at 6 months old he was not ready to eat yet. I should have waited longer instead of stressing myself that he was not eating and every meal was a fight. We still occasionally fight about food. I have learned to just let him snack or let him tell me when he needs to eat.
- Breastfeeding is a rewarding experience. It took us almost three months before we could settle down and were happy doing it. For 5 weeks I cried every time I had to breastfeed, and it did not come naturally, as much as everyone would like you to think so.
- You can do without a baby bath and seat. I never worked it out and it is still lying in my garage. You can bath a baby in the big bath.
- Carrying your baby does not spoil babies. They need to be close and you are just giving them what they need. You cannot spoil a child with love.
- Shoes are an expensive and non-essential item… I just buy them because of peer pressure. My child prefers bare feet.
- You need your Mom when you give birth, not your scared wilting husband who is crying. I admire my hubby for putting up with the whole birth experience, but I know he is still traumatised by the event. It would have been more calming for me to have my mother or just the labour ward nurses.
- If I ever give birth to a child again, I WANT AN EPIDURAL!!! Having been there done that without (not my choice) it was not pleasant and I ended up with an emergency c-section anyway.
- You find you cannot say no so easily to a sweet little baby face.
- There is nothing compared to feel of little arms around your neck and that little whisper of “I love you”
- Having a child in our bed was never part of the plan, but I cannot imagine making him cry and leaving him alone while Hubby and I cuddle.
- I am not a natural mother. Mothering and parenting is something I have to work on. I worry constantly I am doing things wrong.
- Children will eventually lean everything they need to, without you having to force anything. Waiting until they are ready is infinitely easier than trying to strong-arm them into doing things.
- I have a voice of authority and my baby understand it when I use it.
- Tantrums are an unfortunate part of my life, however, there are pre-signals, if one is paying attention.
What have you learned?