What a horrible 12 hours it has been with the never ending screaming tantrums. Hubby and I are out of ideas on how to deal with this.
Yesterday evening was the first time in 4 days that Hubby and Honeybear saw each other. Hubby was very tired after 4 15 hour work days and the last one he only had 3 hours of sleep. So we decided we would all go to bed at Honeybear’s bedtime.
Dinner was a fight, shower was a fight, we get him into the bed, and there are issues about who he would like to sleep next to. We give up on trying to read anything and turn off the light and the screaming starts. Screaming and crying and fussing and snotty noses. It went on for two hours with us trying everything we could think of. Eventually I think Honeybear fell asleep because he was tired. I picked him up, took him to the bathroom to wash his face and the two of us spooned tight and he fell asleep in less than 5 minutes.
This morning we decided to wake an hour later so we do not get into a fight with Honeybear and he can wake on his own. It was not to be. He screamed and fussed and cried every minute since he woke.
I eventually had to carry him under my arm and force him into his car seat. He was still screaming.
He did not want to pee, not brush teeth, does not want to dress, does not want to go out the house. We were on the point of being late for work, which is when I tucked him under my arm and forced him into his car seat. Then I jumped into my car and left.
I called hubby later to find that he screamed the whole way in the car, removed his shoes and socks in the car and threw them at Hubby. He screamed all the way into the school. Hubby says his teacher came and took him and said not to worry. All the kids do this every so often and she would calm him down. Hubby says he left and went to work.
I tried to call the school but no one was available just now.
I feel like such a failure as a parent. I have not worked since last Friday and after the weekend things were better with Honeybear, but yesterday it was like we were back at square one. It was all well, for part of the afternoon. I left work early to fetch him and then e had some time to ourselves, playing and watching the grass fires. Hubby got home and it seemed like all hell broke loose.
My stomach is in knots, I feel hot a feverish just thinking about having to go through all of that again. I know that kind of stress reaction in myself is going to set Honeybear off.
We have planned to go fishing for the weekend, which we all enjoy, and I think some time out of our house, doing some camping might be what we all need. I am hoping it will be what we need to reconnect as a family.
I do not know if it has been a combination of me working evenings and weekends and Hubby working his long hours, that Honeybear is feeling neglected and just looking for negative attention. I am not working at home anymore, because I can see my baby is not happy. I am really hoping the camping and fishing and some fresh outdoor air is what we all need.
I just want to know how to make my child feel better.