My little one has not cried again today…I think it has been 3 days and we have managed to get him to stop crying. It is such a relief. The cookies and chatting and promises of the things we are going to do at home after school seem to really be working. I want to jump for joy I am so happy….and the headaches have reduced a bit…tension and stress maybe? I am planning a nice quiet weekend for Honeybear and I. This is hubby’s working weekend so Honeybear will basically only see him on Monday afternoon again….or in the middle of the night. I know people think it is odd, but we have made it work now. I have made my peace with the long working hours. Hubby is a lot more attentive when he is home. I also do not try to be super woman anymore. If I am tired, I just go to bed. I do not stay up every night to see him…again it sounds weird to some people, however, it is better for me just to sleep, instead of being tired and crabby. I hear hubby come in, I get out of bed to give him a kiss and then go right back to sleep.
Hubby is not offended, and I am less crabby. We make the hours count when we are together.
What do you do when you have ended up with a regular playdate you actually do not want? The child is a bit older and rougher and frankly I find the child a terror. It is enough dealing with my own child, then I have to deal with another child in my house. The Mom is ok. However, she is one of those mom’s who feels free to criticise the way in which I do things. My house is not good enough, my car is not good enough, I feed my child non-organic and I let him play with a ball in the house. I wonder what else is not good enough. Why does she want to come over all the time if we are not good enough, is it to make her feel better about herself? I am happy with how I raise my child and he is healthy and I do not believe in the organic bandwagon.
The problem is how to get out of these playdates? I feel forced and it is always at my house. It is not fair because I am the one left cleaning up after and I am the one that must provide all the appropriate food and it also turns into dinner, when it as just supposed to be tea. Also, Honeybear always ends up with a few broken toys after. This is not cool. I have managed to wriggle out this weekend but I know it will come again, it is not over.
I do not want to lie and make up excuses, but I do not want to do it anymore. Ugh! Sometimes I just want a quiet weekend. I like having time to myself. This weekend I have a plan….I am going to make a minion for Honeybear. He loves Despicable Me movies and I know he will love to have a minion. We could not find any minion toys at the toy shop and I imagine they would be very expensive. I need to pay R6000 for my registrations so I actually should not to spend money on things he does not need. I already have yellow wool and blue wool so it should be easy enough to do, and it will be nice for him to love a toy mama made. I know I am not superwoman, but sometimes I want to be….and I have these mad tendencies to make a minion instead of buying it. If it turns out well, I might post a picture. I am excited, and I think I will start it tonight.
I also have this great pressie for his third birthday (in September)….I am not sure I can wait unitl September. I know this is really doable and I can easily make this.
It will be the boy version.
Everyone have a great weekend! Laugh lots and love even more.