I read an interesting article about the smack or not to smack debate. I know most people tend to feel strongly one way or the other. I am a believer in not smacking. Yes, I was smacked as a child, and I do not think it harmed me in any way, I do not love my parents any less. I just believe in going with my instinct as a mother. It does not feel right to me to smack my child. The same way I felt the need to breastfeed and to allow my child to sleep in our bed. The same way I felt it was not wrong to carry my baby and to rock him to sleep and to allow him to have a dummy.
It is about personal choices. If it works for your family and everyone is healthy and happy, what does it matter what anyone else has to say.
For me smacking is a huge no-no. What do you do when smacking does not work, what does it escalate to? Yes I do shout and I hate that I do it. It feels so wrong when I shout at my child.
Yes Honeybear has tantrums, but so do children who are smacked. I deal with it by allowing Honeybear to have a fit if that is the way he needs to get through his frustration at this age. It cannot go on and on and depends what it is about. If I feel angry, I send him to his room so we are both out of the tense situation.
Usually he just needs attention. Yesterday we had a chocolate tantrum, but which child has never had one of those. It is understandable. I feel that as the parent, I am the one that needs to exercise control, and hopefully in that way, I can teach my child an appropriate vent for his frustrations. Me hitting Honeybear is more likely out of my own frustration.
It is interesting that people tend to feel so strongly about these issues.
In other news, we finally bought a new car (out of desperation). However, my old trusty blue is still what I prefer to drive. Hubby is loving a new car.
Honeybear surprises me everyday with the things he knows. He has been sleeping with us since the hailstorm. His room has broken windows, I think we are at the bottom of the waiting list for replacement glass. He loves the dummy still and since he has been sick, the potty training took a few steps back. However, we are getting back on track slowly, keeping the approach of gentle introduction.
I have been very tired these last few weeks, dealing with all the issues we have and a sick child, but 2 weeks left…..then I can spend a week with my parents. I cannot wait to get there.