Yesterday we received a parcel from Hubby’s parents. It was really nice of them to send it to us. I do appreciate the effort. I just wish they has thought more about what was put into it. I feel a certain way, but it feels like I am being a spoilt brat.
The parcel had many toys in it for Honeybear, however, not a single toy was bought with Honeybear in mind. All the stuff was really old and they belonged to Hubby or one of his sisters. It is great that MIL kept this tuff, because it brings back memories for them, but I am not a part of those memories so I look at the toys, etc, with a more objective mind. They are basically old (some more that 43 years old). They smell funny and some are broken. I don’t want Honeybear to be playing with toys that I am afraid has eco-systems living in them. These things have been stored in a box somewhere for years now. Some of the toys have small pieces that are not safe, in my eyes.
When it comes down to it……they are old and icky and I don’t want Honeybear to touch them. How to put this diplomatically to hubby who has sentimental attachment, and not to offend MIL. I want to chuck the stuff in a bin, I would not even donate it because it is icky. Why must some other child have to use what I don’t consider safe?
I just packed it all away yesterday.
Why can’t they just buy Honeybear something new, for him, because they want to and they have him in mind. He actually does not need toys and I would rather they just visited. Honeybear is just over 6 months old and they have never seen him. (they live only 1400km away)
MIL knitted more booties. They are cute but too small. And I hate putting booties on him, it is so difficult to tie those little strings, socks are way easier. But I cannot say that to her.
Ugh, now I sound like the fussy daughter-in-law. It does not help that my parents always buy new stuff and my Mom is coming to see Honeybear for the third time (and we visited my parents). It is not about gifts. I don’t want it. I just don’t want anything that is old and icky and I have to keep just because it belonged to so and so. Just call and ask about how he is doing. Come visit. There is no need to send parcels of things the fussy DIL does not want in her house.
I will be blatant because this is my blog and I can say what I want and it does not mean I want to hurt my family (I just can’t say it to them).
I think they are being cheap and it is all in really bad taste to send old, icky stuff to Honeybear. It feels like he is not good enough for something thought about or to visit.
Do they even know how sad hubby is that they have made no attempt to visit our son?