There is a guy who works with Hubby and he is cheating on his fiancé. The first thought that comes to my mind is that he is a pig. How can he do that to her? I know nothing about their relationship, beside the fact that he is cheating on her, with someone else that works with him. The other woman knows all about the fiancé but she does not care. I asked Hubby to ask him why? The cheater says it is because he has no strings attached sex with the other woman.
The next question that comes to mind is: What is wrong with strings? I guess it depends what is defined as a string. Is being in love a string? Is remaining faithful a string? Is doing a few dishes strings?
The last time I saw this cheater, he grabbed me, hugged me, and lifted his leg up around me. I was pretty shocked, but I thought he was just fooling around. Hubby was not happy with him about that and asked him to let me go. So I asked Hubby why he would get upset, it is his friend and he was just playing. Now I know he cheats and he probably does not always just play.
I do not know the fiancé or the cheater well enough but it is an intriguing situation. I know it is a painful situation when she does eventually find out.
Hubby thinks it is weird that I find it so fascinating. What does fascinate me is what makes someone do a hurtful thing like this to someone you love. I can see the attraction to cheating, but there are many things that are attractive, but we don’t do it because of the consequences.
There is the age-old question of whether man is supposed to be monogamous. My view is that it does not matter how man is made to be naturally, you are man and you have the ability to overcome nature. There are examples all around us of how man has overcome and overrode nature, so that is no excuse.
How do you go from being totally in love, living in each other’s pockets, to not caring enough not to cheat? This disturbs me greatly. I want my love to be forever. Right now, it feels like it is the everlasting kind of love that Hubby and I share, but I am pretty sure that many people used to think the same way. Then one day they got outta bed and found out it was an illusion.
Then I see my parents who are married for more than thirty years. My in-laws, married for more than forty years. Love does endure. There is hope. You have to believe that what you have is worth being forever.