I have been sad and angry and hopeless and despairing all over this weekend. My sister’s husband beats her. My mom told me on Saturday morning. She has been so sick and is still waiting for results for what is wrong with her. And what does her husband do when she gets home Friday? He beats her. He is clever. He hits her where no one can see. Where her clothes will cover it up. She is so sick she cannot walk and he hits her the first day she is back home. The pain and suffering she must feel.
I want to help her but I don’t know how. Mom says she does not want anyone to know. And she won’t leave him. Why won’t she just walk out? Why does she stay with a man who hurts her? I cannot understand? Is there someone out there who can tell me? I do not advocate divorce, but sometimes it has to be done. When he hurts you so bad you cannot go to work you need to leave. Or am I wrong? What have I missed?
I spoke to her. She won’t tell me that he beats her. The impression I get is that she feels embarrassed. She feels like she is the one that has something to feel ashamed of. I just want to go get her and he can just suffer in hell for all eternity. He cannot even say he is drunk and that’s why he beats her (not that that would be a reasonable excuse. There is none). I spoke to my mom-in-law. Her husband used to beat her too. 40 years later they are still married and they sorted it somehow. She tells me a woman who is not in that situation cannot understand why they stay. Why they stay through all the pain. She has offered to talk to my sister, but sister refuses to admit something is the matter. The only one she has spoken to is my mom. And my mom is supposed to keep this a secret.
The horrible man. Why did she marry him? I have tried to encourage her to get counseling. I’ve told her to take him with her. They need to do this together if they want to be together. I would scratch out his eyes if I could, but she loves him. That is what keeps him safe. That she loves him.
Bloggers out there, how do I help her? How do I help him to stop hurting her? Help me to help them, please.