Hubby and I would love have to a kid. But they grow up and they always need stuff and you. Babies are not toys. However, when you see the cuties of others its hard not to want to make your own too.
Visiting family in Durban I was sitting on the beach. A woman, no one that I had ever met. She was sitting on the sand too. We started talking and she said something interesting….”don’t equate your children with money” ( this was in response to me saying we were waiting to own property before kids). She said that we should have children for the sake of children, because we want them, not because we think we can now afford them.
This conversation has created doubt in my perfect plans. We wait to own property and then we have a kids. Am I being too secular and equating children with money? Am I being sensible to wait? Am I going to be too old soon? The current state of the economy has made it just about impossible for hubby and I to get into the property market, so if we wait, will it be too long? Am I just broody and will this pass? I’m beginning to doubt myself now. We would love to have at least one child.
We are better off than most people. We are by no means struggling financially. Yes we could afford a child, couples with less than us have them….but is it the right thing to do?